Sacrifices have always been glorified as the biggest sign of love. For parenthood, society has always celebrated parents who put themselves last. But now, a pediatrician has challenged this belief and shared a refreshing stance on being a “good parent.” According to Dr. Ravi Malik, if you want to be a good parent you have to learn to be a little selfish. While the statement may initially sound inappropriate to some people, the real essence of the doctor’s suggestion is something much more practical.
What does the doctor mean by being selfish
In many households, parents often feel pressured to meet the expectations of their relatives, neighbours and the overall society around them. Whether it is attending functions, helping extended family, or always being available, saying yes becomes a habit. Dr. Ravi says, “It isn’t a necessity to stand up to every relative’s expectations.” He shares a bold stance and adds that prioritising social expectations over children is not good parenting.
“Parents must learn how to say no”
Stating that parents should also learn to use the word “no,” Dr. Ravi says parents should know how to set boundaries in every aspect of life and think carefully before saying yes to everything. Stating that parents should also learn to use the word “no,” Dr. Ravi says parents should know how to set boundaries in every aspect of life and think carefully before saying yes to everything.He further explains that every “yes” comes at a cost, and whenever parents say yes to something, they are also indirectly saying no to many other important things in life.
Parents must protect and prioritize time
He stresses that parents must understand that time is limited, and managing it wisely is extremely important. If parents do not learn to protect and prioritise their time, the impact eventually falls on either their children or their own health. The doctor adds that when parents constantly say yes to outside demands, they may unknowingly be saying no to their mental peace, career, health, sleep, and even quality time with their children.
Boundaries are important in parenting
The real message Dr. Ravi’s words are more about setting boundaries, and boundaries are not a sign of selfishness but a sign of healthy parenting.Also, when children observe how their parents manage difficult situations and prioritise personal wellbeing, they unknowingly develop similar behaviors in themselves. In essence, healthy boundaries teach children the importance of balance, self-respect, and emotional wellbeing.Sometimes, learning to say “no” to unnecessary pressure may actually be saying “yes” to better parenting.
