Award-winning actress Tillotama Shome recently recounted a poignant anecdote from the early days of her acting career that left an indelible impression on her life and career. The incident, while disheartening then, was a watershed moment that transformed her self-belief and instilled her with confidence.
In a conversation reminiscing about her past, Shome remembered an incident at a film wrap party where she was asked what her dreams and aspirations were. She made a casual comment about her desire to have a particular car, linking it to the type of salary she could expect to have one day in the industry. Rather than support, she received a sarcastic comment from a director who happened to be attending the party. He informed her outright that she would never earn that amount of money.
While the statement was discouraging, it never did discourage her. Instead, it galvanized her. Convinced she would prove that belief incorrect, she went into her next project with a mission—to demand the salary she was informed was impossible.
This was followed by a challenging four-months negotiation period, where Shome remained firm in conviction. Her determination finally bore fruit when she managed to sign a contract for what she had set her mind on—twice the amount discussed during that painful encounter.
In a moment of individual triumph, she told the same director of her success—not out of bitterness, but in order to claim back the narrative that had once attempted to restrict her.
Shome continued to emphasize the importance of understanding one’s own worth and being around individuals who support and believe in you. When others do not recognize your ability, it’s usually the faith of a friend or even your own determination that keeps one going.
Her tale resonates with countless others working to be seen and heard in sectors that frequently impose narrow standards. It’s a reminder that no one else decides your value—only you.
